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Originally Posted by Vaness
Girls love to sign up for the dance classes - salsa and ballroom are two fun ones. You switch partners throughout the one-hour class, so you get to dance with new people all the time. The classes are fun, and you can laugh at each others mistakes, or help each other get the moves down  |
I see this mentioned a lot. I'll admit, I haven't tried this, but only because it honestly seemed like a super-transparent and insincere thing to do. Like it would be obvious that guys attending were hoping to score, rather than actually learn anything. I mean, salsa and ballroom?! These are 18-22 yr old kids, not geriatrics hoping to score at the seniors' ball.
For the other guys in this thread, I just have a few words.
If you consider yourself average looking in the general population, your attractiveness is likely to be below average on a university campus
as you'll be surrounded by a disproportionate amount of young, trim and pretty people than at any other point in your life.
So you worry, perhaps justifiably .
The simple answer is: regardless of whether you're attractive or not, you have to put yourself out there anytime you can. A lot of the time, you will get brushed off. This is just a fact of life. Sometimes you'll approach wrong, sometimes it'll be right place, wrong time, etc.
You can't get discouraged after being shot down. A few rejections doesn't mean that you're a social freak who must remain in his compound 24/7. Any of you taken statistics? You need at least 30 observations to get anything close to statistically significant results on your experiment. It's the same thing here.
Some of you will be like
at that number. But think of it this way. Provided you don't go to pieces after a rejection, you'll approach each new opportunity with a better insight on how to go about things. With each approach, it'll gradually become easier talking to strange girls, and you'll get better at not creeping them out.
Probability wise, at least a couple of the 30 you approach will go for you. If they don't, you are aiming too high. Learn to live with girls who are 6s and 7s on your scales because in all likelihood, they've adjusted their own thresholds to squeeze you in.
The key is to be interesting all the time. Have fun stories to tell, have a hobby, have diverse interests. I realize that's not much of a 'key' as it basically means be perfect, but at least make the effort.
Also smile a lot. I bet a lot of you are terrible at smiling. I am/was too. It's getting better though. Remember, it's not so much in the shape of your lips as it is in the eyes. Also, don't turn up your nose if a girl says she likes Green Day/The Killers/U2, i.e. bad mall music. Telling them you have the first pressing of all The Smith's EPs is not going to elevate you to godlike status in her eyes, despite what you might think. Unless she's clearly arty and non-mainstream, in which case, milk it for all its worth.
